I’ve learnt a valuable lesson (again) recently; old habits die hard. I actually saw this habit of overthinking within a friend of mine recently too but we were both to wrapped up in our own thoughts to tell each other.


#1 Don’t accept things from strangers LOL (but this is a story for another time) 
#2 Don’t let overthinking stop you from living your best life.

This post is mostly therapeutic for me, I really just wanted to share this because I think sometimes we can get so consumed in our own thoughts we may hurt ourselves or others unintentionally.
Anyways…I hope you can relate to something from this post.

‘When you overthink, your judgments get cloudy and your stress gets elevated. You spend too much time in the negative. It can become difficult to act.’ 

Guilty, *raises hand* my judgements became super cloudy over the past couple of months and I was snapped out of it recently. I spent months overthinking a situation, when looking back I wish I had taken a step back 4. Put things into perspective. and just had a conversation. I did not; sadly. I fell back into an old habit but I am addressing it now because I promise to do better and I wont let it define me.
‘Overthinking is often based in feeling that you aren’t good enough’ I had a situation a couple of years ago when someone made me feel like ‘I wasn’t enough’ and I carried it around for a long time until I couldn’t anymore. It was exhausting, overthinking is tiring and a literal waste of time. Looking back they probably didn’t even mean it in a negative way, It was just bad communication on both ends.

Sometimes our thoughts lead us to waiting for the perfect moment to tell someone how we feel or applying for a particular job role. I’m here to tell you (and myself) YOU are good DOPE enough. We all make mistakes we all fuck up but it doesn’t define you, if you want to do better it starts with you just doing better NOT planning or waiting for the perfect moment. 5. Stop waiting for perfection just be be genuine with your intentions and the rest will follow regardless of the outcome. Whether it be positive or negative 6. Change your view of fear ‘just because things did not work out before does not mean that has to be the outcome every time.’ Instead of being afraid to speak to someone, why not just approach them, why not apply for that job role and if you get rejected use it as a learning opportunity and get feedback. Say yes to that opportunity instead of overthinking what may go wrong, don’t fear the weights section at the gym, yes you feel like a noob but in a couple of weeks your glutes are going to be amazing.

Life is short, to waste time overthinking. You, YES you are worthy and you matter and you have potential 10. Be grateful, live your best life. Yes some situations just suck but thats just life sometimes. In the bigger context, is what your overthinking REALLY THAT DEEP?

Next time your mind starts to wonder, don’t let it consume you, take a moment and address whats making you feel that way. Put things into perspective, talk to someone, tweet someone haha literally…there are dope people on twitter who have personally helped me out. Point is JUST address it and move on…no dwelling endlessly. 

• Fail an exam? It sucks but its alright, retake! 
• Get rejected from a dream job? It sucks but there are more opportunities out there.

Speaking from experience I am literally the QUEEN of rejection in general. ‘Rejection never defines you. Your reaction following rejection defines you.’ (Jia Jiang) I got rejected from so many jobs/opportunities but I used the rejection to do better ‘We can use rejection to fuel our determination to succeed.’ (Jia Jiang) and I ended up at my dream job regardless with the most amazing people.

I’m over over-thinking; I’ve learnt this lesson again and for the last time.

Because failing better is still a win!
Apologises for the bad grammar, till next week.


xo